One of the ways we can look at potential decisions or approaches it look at what we are dealing with and trying to be more optimistic about what we might be attempting.
There are internal ' mental maps' about what we might do that are easily interrupted with negativity or thoughts that interject against going forward that easily take the lead against the idea we were considering.
The idea is to try to develop more and more decision making tools that can bring our hopes to situations where there is more realized potential.
One idea is too look at what is the gap in the situation and try to see the ways in which the gap may not be all that large, and therefore adding weight or credence to giving this scene a go to a degree.
An example might be a proposed relationship. Maybe there is fear as to why even bother trying to develop this relationship, but a simple look at the situation and surmising that the gaps aren't that large and realistically there is in fact a good amount of common ground to start with, can give the more optimistic view which is needed to feel good enough to proceed and take a further look.If someone for example wants to pitch baseball in the major leagues and their fastball clocks at 84 miles an hour, there is a real gap in what they are looking for speed wise, if it is clocking at 88 miles an hour, there is a slight gap but not so much.
In many cases we are more so dealing with slight gaps rather than big gaps, but once in the panic zone we see any gap as a giant hurdle or a large gap when there are slight gaps and larger gaps to contend with, and we are better of if we differentiate between the two.
This idea can apply to almost any area of life. When the gaps are not so wide and chasms not so difficult to potentially cross, we can reconsider situations, whatever they might be that might have potential benefits all the way around.
It is not necessarily a matter of closing the gap in your thinking, but just seeing that something more so has slight gaps and dealing with slight gaps is not the same as dealing with extra large gaps. Close enough on the gaps might be good enough to get going.
So one of the tools of being more optimistic is too differentiate between gaps and better see there are different gaps to what I might hope to do and try to more so capitalize on gaps that might not be as large as they all seem to be when things are lumped all together in the big heap of negativity.
Seeing that there are slght gaps rather than big gaps, can help us in given situations to find the more hopeful stance in our thinking.
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